1. God
I have always enjoyed writing, but up until
I was twenty-five everything I wrote was for class assignments. It wasn’t until Randall deployed for the
second time that I realized the kind of writing I enjoyed the most—inspirational
writing. In the midst of grieving my
husband’s absence, I would come across a quote or bible verse, or hear a song
on the radio that would somehow apply to my life and would encourage me to
think positively about my circumstances.
I began to write short essays based on these inspirations and how they helped
me get through the tough times. I
e-mailed these essays to my closest family members and posted them under my
notes on Facebook. I was not expecting
the number of people I would reach and how much others would enjoy my words. I soon realized that my desire
and ability to write is a gift, a special talent I can share with others. Through writing, I can take what inspires me
and reach out to other people who may be going through similar
difficulties. Since I began writing the
essays, I have continually felt something pulling me to keep writing, to make
it something more permanent. My problem,
though, was not knowing exactly what I wanted to write about. I knew I wanted to inspire, but I couldn’t
figure out if I wanted the inspiration to come from my experiences as a
military wife, my passion for being healthy, what I have learned about making a marriage great, or the trials and tribulations of motherhood. For a few years, I quietly contemplated and
listened for that voice, the one telling me to write, for an answer. I knew who’s voice it was, and I wanted to
make sure I listened closely so I would get it right. One day, when I was tired of feeling a
loss of identity from being a stay-home mom, I decided that I was going to
create a job for myself. My job would be
to write. My writing would be directed towards
military wives. I would write to inspire
them to embrace the lifestyle upon which they have embarked. After my decision, I immediately felt a sense
of ease come over me and I knew I had heard the right answer. Why it took so long to hear, I do not
know. But God has his plans. He finally spoke, and I listened.
Military wives share many
similarities in what they must deal with in their lives, but every wife’s
interpretations are different. We
interpret the events in our lives based on our feelings, fears, beliefs, values,
past events, and the list goes on.
Two wives whose husbands are going on the same deployment are experiencing the same situation, but will interpret it differently based on the individual
variables in each one’s life. There will
always be a wife who is moving along just fine at the same time as another wife
is struggling. I think it is extremely
important that military wives share their experiences and interpretations with
other wives. By learning how other women
deal with similar circumstances, we can build on what we already know and
become stronger as a result. As women,
it is easy to appear strong on the outside but be torn apart on the
inside. Chances are someone we know has
been in the same boat and has gotten through it. I have been so blessed with the nature of my
circumstances thus far in that none of them have been debilitating, but there
have been several times when I was greatly discouraged and in need of a helping
hand. I am hoping that I can use my experiences to lend a hand to someone else
who may need it.
3. To share the things that inspire and encourage me
Since I was a little girl, I have had a
genuine ability to seek out what is positive in the world. Perhaps it is a spiritual gift, or it could
simply be part of my genes. I remember in
high school other kids would get annoyed with me because they wanted to be
negative and I tried to point out the positive point of view. (I can’t imagine how today’s teenagers would
react to that!) But I didn’t let them
get me down. It made me feel good to
stay positive and no one was going to stop me.
Fast forward to the world of adulthood and responsibility, I started to
become negative. Life really is hard! After a while of disappointing myself with the
amount of negativity running through my head, I decided I needed to find the
positive again. The group of women I
hung out with started a bible study which enabled me to see that the bible is
an excellent manual for those looking for encouragement. I found several verses that spoke to me and
helped me keep my head up. I also received
a gift from a good friend made up of cards with verses and quotes on them for each week my
husband was deployed. This gave me
something to focus on each week and help me stay positive through the deployment. I also have found that certain songs will motivate
me to stay optimistic, so I try to listen to music when I am feeling low. Everyone has their own list of things which inspire
and encourage them to keep moving on. By
sharing my own, I feel like I can make a positive difference in people’s lives. I have heard it said that smiles are
contagious. I am hoping that positive
energy is contagious too, no matter how much misery loves company.
A few days ago, something very
exciting occurred to me. I have been
writing this blog for six weeks, and for six weeks I have been sleeping better
(I haven’t slept well for four years!), have experienced less anxiety, have
been able to stay focused on the positive side of things, and the feeling of a
loss of identity has diminished tremendously.
I think part of it is that I simply don’t have time to think about
everything that bothers me because I’m too busy writing! But it is also my therapy. When I am writing, I am calm. I am thinking clearly. I am trying to find ways to inspire others,
and end up inspiring myself while I’m doing it.
If writing ends up being a career for me, then I will have one happy
life because it will be like getting paid to meditate! I do hope to have a writing career someday,
but for now this blog lends me enough to work on. If I touch even one person’s life with my
words, then I am happy, and happiness is
nature’s medicine. To all of my readers
who have commented and expressed how my writing has helped you, thank you! You, in turn, have helped me more than you
know!
New follower from weekend stroll. Not a military wife but I love what you are doing. Love for you to follow back when you get a chance.
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